Your Love Accomplice with Christina Weber and Guest, Bryan Reeves

Podcast Ep: Arriving At Ready

Two years ago I ended a relationship after reading Bryan Reeves' article, "Choose Her Everyday (or Leave Her)." The article was read by millions. In this episode, I finally get to pick the brain (and heart) of the man known as the "Relationship Insight Ninja" - Bryan Reeves - on the difference between man and woman OR masculine and feminine energies. We flow in conversation about the journey of self-discovery that one must ride through to arrive in a state of readiness for deeply connected love. Are you ready? 

Men and Women Need One Another to Learn How to Love with Increased Authenticity and Respect

via instagram @DanielleLaPorte, credited to @Jannarden + David Pierce

via instagram @DanielleLaPorte, credited to @Jannarden + David Pierce

Four years ago in New York City, I went on a second date with a male model. We knew each other through friends of friends. We’d seen each other at events and get-togethers, we flirted here and there, and finally, a year after we met, he asked me out.

The first date was great. He came to my neighborhood at the time I was in Harlem and on the second date I drove down to his neighborhood on the Lower East Side. Since I was driving, I made sure to only have two drinks so I could get myself home.

During our meal, we caught up, exchanged stories about what we were working on and the friends we had in common. I had fun and noticed that during our meal, he kept sharing tidbits about his apartment and how much he loved it. As our dinner progressed, this led into how much he wanted me to see his place as well.

I’m sure you know where this goes.

I didn’t really care to see his place. But I could tell he wanted to share it. And at the time, I didn’t feel like his desire to show it to me had anything to do with sex. Although I was enjoying his company, I was beginning to think that we weren’t romantically compatible. Not to be cliche, but I wasn’t intellectually stimulated. I wanted a soul connection. Not sex.

In the end, I decided to see his place. And of course, we made out a little, and eventually, I was done. I didn’t want anymore. I was ready to go home. So I told him, “This has been awesome, I’m going to get ready to leave. Thanks for a great night.”

And his response was to put his hands under my dress and start touching me. I was annoyed, both by his actions and by my own confusion. There were seconds when it felt great, he was touching me in the right place, but when I came back to my consciousness and checked in with myself, I remember acknowledging, “Why am I here? I don’t want to do this.”

I tried to pull away, but he kept hugging, holding me tight, even when I told him I wanted to go home. I kept trying to push him away, saying that I wanted to leave (and maneuvering my body to actually leave,) but he wasn’t letting go; he was stronger than me. I realized that if I wanted to leave, I would have to become physically aggressive and fight him in order to actually depart.

I’m sure some people reading this might say, “Why not? You should have fought him if that’s what it took.”

But for me, it was easier to just go with it. I remember thinking, “FINE. We’ll do this and when he finishes, we’ll be DONE.” As in, I’ll never have to deal with him again.

I can’t say I was forced. I also can’t say he wasn’t using his power and my turn-on against me.

It was grey.

There were moments when I tried to talk myself into it. Like, “You enjoy sex, just get into it. C’mon Christina, you’re not trying. Just go with it. He’s hot. Why not?”

Article by Christina Weber. Continue reading on Medium here

For The Love of Men by Rachel Maskell

When I set out to do Jan Story Circle with the theme Beauty of Him, I had no idea so many more things would be put in motion with #timesup and the Golden Globes. I had no idea some women would be so visceral and angry. But it happened. And I learned. I was exposed to the depth of pain so great that even discussing what we like about men was seen as an attack on the solidarity of sisterhood.

So why would I do it? What was the point other than to stir up the pot?

To begin with, I have a husband who I love and admire. Things aren’t always rainbows and sunshine and that’s not his fault. Often it’s the challenges of having my shadow, my mirror, reflected back on me. And vice versa.

What I have learned in my 12 years of being with him is that if I want more love, appreciation, respect, recognition from him I have to positively reinforce those behaviors. I have to celebrate them and celebrate him. Like most people, and dogs, we respond better when praised for what we do well than being yelled at for all the shit we do that’s “wrong.”

In understanding this about my own relationship and extrapolating out I think we can all do better (men and women) to applaud and celebrate each other for all the amazing things we do so we will do more of them.

I certainly don’t condone the poor behavior and the patriarchal paradigm we’ve been held under for way too many centuries. But I also hear that men are lost. Some are afraid to speak to women now. They’re not sure what to say or how to engage. And yes, they’re afraid of the backlash.

“So what,” you may ask?

For all the male bashing and anger towards this sex I know equally, if not more, women are looking for a partner in their life that they can connect with. That will support them, love them, protect them...characteristics mostly attributed towards men. How are we going to get more of what we want if we keep focusing on what we hate?

Continue reading at rachelmaskell.com and get tickets to join Rachel for Feminine Weapon Day LA.

Samantha Bee on Sexual Coercion

All of these conversations may co-exist at the same time. This is important. Listen. 

“It doesn’t have to be rape to ruin your life, and it doesn’t have to ruin your life to be worth speaking out about,” Samantha Bee said. “Any kind of sexual harassment or coercion is unacceptable!”

We're at a pivotal time in this lifetime. Within the messiness lies the opportunity for transcendence. Men and women are life partners. Let's do a better job at creating space for these conversations. Leave your ego at the door. Lead with love. #oneness

#ForTheLoveofMen: Orphaned Starfish Founder, Andrew Stien

For 25 years, Andrew Stein plied his trade in the banking industry, helping finance scores of infrastructure projects across Latin America and Asia.

"I was one of the top fliers in the United States on Continental Airlines," he says. "I was traveling incessantly. So I decided to go to every country manager and say that if you wanted me to come and pitch business, you had to find me an orphanage, two hours in the schedule, and let me play with some kids. That was going to be my salvation for these trips."

But it was a conversation he had with a Catholic nun, at an orphanage in Chile, that changed everything.

"She said 'I'm not sure if you know what happens here, but at the age of 18, by law, these girls are considered adults. And they have to leave our little home. And 100% of these girls become prostitutes or live on the streets."

Stein says he and the nuns sat down and determined education and job training would be the pathways to helping provide opportunities to children, once they aged-out of the system. He then returned home to New York and convinced one of his top clients, a law firm, to file the paperwork necessary to create a charity. He then went to family and friends and raised about $40,000 to build a state-of-the-art computer center in the orphanage.

"Six months later I went back, and it was magic," says Stein. "The younger kids became top of their class. The older kids learned how to use Microsoft Office, so they learned how to use the keyboard. They had a skill."

Today, the Orphaned Starfish Foundation has 52 computer centers in 27 countries around the world (including the US), helping over 12,000 children who are victims of abuse, trafficking or poverty.

A father to some. A magician to others. But Stein says there's no secret or sleight of hand in the work he does. It just comes down to caring.

"When I go back and I talked to my old friends in banking, people ask if I miss the toys, if I miss the big houses," says Stein.

"I live in a 600 square-foot apartment in Astoria, Queens. And I tell them I don't miss it really at all. I have the very incredible feeling of knowing what I was put here to do, and the ability to do it. There is magic in the world. You can, with just a little bit, make more of a difference than you can possibly imagine."

100% of the net proceeds from Feminine Weapon Day benefit The Orphaned Starfish Foundation.

Awakened Love with Sarah and Kendra in Costa Rica

Retreat with your loved one on April 14th to 19th in the magical jungle town of Nosara, Costa Rica. We will spend 6 days building a deeper level of connection and intimacy while indulging in healthy food, beautiful sunsets, yoga, meditation, breath work, and experiential exercises to help connect you to each other and your heart's truest desires.

During this jungle retreat, you will dive into understanding and empathizing with each other on a deeper level - mind, body, and soul. The work we will do together is different. It’s deeper. It’s personalized. We will help you uncover and break free from patterns and unconscious beliefs that are guiding your behavior and creating unwanted results in your life and relationship so you can build a more conscious and intentional love. This work can help you rebuild intimacy and trust that may have been lost or bring what is already present to a higher vibration.

Not only will you connect on a new level, but you will also learn tangible tools that will support your continued progress and result in real, lasting change when you return to your lives at home.

Join us in this beautiful space to find passion, inspiration, and strengthen your bond with your partner - it is time to awaken your LOVE. Register here!

This Is the Type of Man We Want By Ourside

Justin Baldoni wants to start a dialogue with men about redefining masculinity -- to figure out ways to be not just good men but good humans. In a warm, personal talk, he shares his effort to reconcile who he is with who the world tells him a man should be. And he has a challenge for men: "See if you can use the same qualities that you feel make you a man to go deeper," he says. "Your strength, your bravery, your toughness: Are you brave enough to be vulnerable? Are you strong enough to be sensitive? Are you confident enough to listen to the women in your life?"

Bell Hooks on Loving Men

“To create loving men, we must love males. Loving maleness is different from praising and rewarding males for living up to sexist-defined notions of male identity. Caring about men because of what they do for us is not the same as loving males for simply being. When we love maleness, we extend our love whether males are performing or not. Performance is different from simply being. In patriarchal culture males are not allowed simply to be who they are and to glory in their unique identity. Their value is always determined by what they do. In an anti-patriarchal culture males do not have to prove their value and worth. They know from birth that simply being gives them value, the right to be cherished and loved.” ~ bell hooks

Me Too AND For The Love of Men

As we're in the production for Feminine Weapon Day, working to create an event to show love to good men, we feel it's important to share why now. 

#MeToo is important and sexual assault is not something to be celebrated. Period. It’s a serious issue that’s finally coming to light after many years of women suffering in silence. #TimesUp. 

And, at the same time, there’s another experience that’s important as well, which is celebrating the men who uplift, support, and honor us as women. That is what Feminine Weapon Day is about – honoring the men who choose to respect women rather than harm them. Because those men exist.

One movement, one expression, one experience doesn’t counteract the other – they’re both important and they can co-exist.

It’s not EITHER Me Too OR For the Love of Men. It’s BOTH Me Too AND For the Love of Men.

FB Live with Joanna Lovering on Loving Men

The idea that we're honoring good men is triggering some women. My theory man's life purpose is to make women happy and women are to be lovers of men is triggering as well. 

Joanna Lovering, a successful career-driven woman living in New York City, is one of those people. She has a unique perspective about our mission. 

Our goal with this project is to forward the conversation. There's no right or wrong here. Nothing is absolute. However, through this dialogue, I hope we progress. 

Behind The Scenes: #ForTheLoveofMen Photoshoot

Today was Day 1 of photographing good men for Feminine Weapon's #ForTheLoveofMen Exhibit. Here are some of the behind the scene photos.

The men who showed up are incredible. They brought charisma, laughs, stories, investor pitches, sharpies, microphones and a ukulele.

They spoke of how appreciated they felt for being seen. And how they too want to bring greater joy to the world and serve the feminine.

We can't wait to share the final images with you!!

The exhibit will be featured on January 30th at Feminine Weapon Day Celebrations in NYC + LA.

Podcast: Your Love Accomplice with Christina Weber // SO PURKH

The mantra, SO PURKH, is known as the chant for men. Mara Saranpreet Luthane, a certified Kundalini Yoga Teacher, first told me about the prayer. Shortly after, I began a 40-day practice of reciting the prayer 11x daily. The Sikh mantra is said to uplift men, clear up karma around men, and bring out "The Man God" in men. Some even call it "the love mantra" as it's also said to call in your true (male) love. In this episode, Mara shares the heritage of SO PURKH and the power of chanting it. Recorded on Day 17 of my practice, hear how it's shifting my relationship with the masculine thus far. Both men and women are invited to chant SO PURKH. I imagine it to leave you buzzing and vibrating higher than ever before with a greater capacity for love in your heart. 

Syndee Winters of Hamilton: An American Musical + Creatorof LENA: A Moment With A Lady Joins Us!

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Syndee Winters joins the lineup for Feminine Weapon Day New York as MC! Syndee will be guiding attendees through an experience inclusive of mediation, live music, connection and more during the experience on January 30th at NYC's The Cutting Room. 

In 2014, Syndee Winters performed for the first Feminine Weapon Day celebration with Margot Bingham, Nancy Danino and Dilia Stien. In 2015, she was our MC.

Happy she's back powering for love with Feminine Weapon in 2018!

Bryan Reeves Joins The Relationship Panel at Feminine Weapon Day Los Angeles

As we shift into an enlightenment, it's important that the voice of both the new masculine and the new feminine be heard.

Bryan Reeves, well-known as the Relationship Insights Ninja (how fitting!) and for having authored Choose Her Everyday (or Leave Her) will speak on a panel moderator by Christina Weber at Feminine Weapon Day Los Angeles on January 30th at West End in Santa Monica. 

We are grateful to have Bryan and his partner, Silvy Khoucasian, battling for greater love in the world with us!

Podcast: Your Love Accomplice with Christina Weber // No Filter

Trying to predict how to share what's on your mind so that the others receive it well is exhausting. My guest, Robert Schwenkler, Founder of The Brotherhood Men's Leadership Community, lovingly speaks his truth even if you don't like it. Robert, who first said no to being on this podcast, draws people towards him with his honesty and desire to do/be better. Listen as we chat about male/female friendship, transformational work, and $$$ from his home in Santa Monica, CA

A Scientific Difference between Man + Women

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Oxytocin decreases females stress levels and it lowers testosterone in males which causes them to experience higher stress levels.

So when you’re exploring something new, be patient. Due to this imbalance, too much bonding too soon can cause a man to feel slightly uncomfortable, as he adjusts to this new setting.

When a male withdraws, his testosterone raises so he feels more balanced and is then likely to return happier than before.

Whereas women tend to pull away when hurt or angry - possibly because we’re not receiving the attention. We're lacking oxytocin!!

This causes disconnection. Yet with awareness, we can overcome and be more successful in our relationships.